About
I’m the author of Untangle Your Thoughts and Lunar Insight, and the voice behind The Breakup Source.
After 20+ years of instructional writing, I built this site to do one thing: turn the chaos of a breakup into something you can actually work with.
Most breakup advice falls into one of two camps. Therapy-speak — abstract, validating, but leaves you with nothing to do at 2am. Or cheerleading — “you’ve got this!” — which sounds nice and changes nothing. Neither helps when you can’t sleep, can’t stop checking their Instagram, and don’t know what to do tomorrow.
My approach is different. I break down the mechanisms behind what you’re feeling — the neuroscience, the attachment patterns, the timing — and turn them into specific protocols you can use today. Not generic tips. Named frameworks with timelines and steps.
That’s what this site is built around. Articles structured around mechanism, not affirmation. Frameworks like The 72-Hour Contact Rule, The Comparison Trap, and The Grief Timeline Paradox. Recovery treated as something you can understand, not something you just have to wait out.
Five areas, each treated as its own discipline:
The articles give you the why and the initial how. The books give you the complete system to work through.
Available now
A 208-page workbook for racing thoughts, anxious spirals, and overwhelm. Seven evidence-based sections — thought release, reframing, mindfulness, anxiety tracking, coping toolkit, gratitude anchors, affirmations.
A 219-page guided dreamwork and self-reflection planner. Thirty daily cycles plus twelve progressive lucid dreaming challenges. For deep self-understanding through your inner world.
Writing for women rebuilding lives bigger than the relationships they left behind.
Where to start: